A lot of time people ask me what is forgiveness? and why people must let it the feelings and person who have given them pain. Well, in reality, forgiveness and letting go seem radically different than they are on paper. We all know how to forgive and remove the feelings from our mind, if not? Then the internet is flooded with the websites that are ready to tell you. But what the feeling truly means and where it stands on practical grounds is something what we really don’t understand.
Forgiveness is a virtue but often we find it hard to let go someone after hurting you and is stumbling to process the change in our mind. Our heart is burdened with anger and we have little or no caliber to remove it by forgiving the person who is the reason behind it. We intend to carry this feeling of guilt with us for time and find it really hard to forgive or forget.
There is no doubt that the idea of forgiveness is a virtue that not many people have. We must have kindness, sympathy for the person who has made us suffers but taking this ability as a gift is something not I find as a good point. I find it really hard to wish a person good luck or to have warm feelings for the one who has been bad or rude to us in past. They will be the one who will be benefitted by forgiveness the most not us. Coping from heartbreaks after cheating and tragic divorce is not easy and forgiveness will only remove guilt from the heart of person but it will not heal the wounds you have suffered. Then What is forgiveness?
Forgiveness is removing the burden of negative thoughts and feelings from our mind. When we forgive someone we not only do well for him but we do better for us. As a person, we have bigger plans and aspiration for ourselves than getting stuck in a not so good experience and forgiving the person is the best solution from getting out of bad memories. However, it doesn’t really mean that we will ignore the repetitive offenses of the person who is mean, obnoxious and unreliable.
Sustaining the feeling and pain is like withholding the power against the offender. Many a time we fear about losing the power we have by forgiving the person and in midst of this turmoil try to generate power through the pain. Forgiveness, on the other hand, releases us from the pain and makes us free to do things that will actually make us happy. We will get our wounds to heal with accelerating the healing process.
Forgiveness is a process that must be understood and the first step of understanding forgiveness is by learning what is really is and only after that you will be able to ask yourself about the permission of forgiving the person.
Forgiveness will not really remove the pain or bad memories but will definitely make you a better person in the future.